Friday, May 28, 2010

Thomas

I'm really enjoying Thomas right now.



He's recently developed a really compassionate desire to assist Josiah. If Siah is crying, Thomas will offer him his own stuffed teddy bear, or share his snack, or pat his back and softly murmur "it's ok, Josiah, it's ok." (Josiah often responds to these ministrations with a truly awful show of spite, throwing the proffered objects on the floor and screaming, but so far Thomas remains unhurt and undaunted.) I love watching my little boys transform into "big brother". I remember when Jonathan did it with Thomas and it is really fun to watch that sweetness happen again.

Today I haven't been feeling well and was hoping to take a nap in the afternoon. Jonathan and Josiah cooperated by falling asleep, but Thomas wasn't sleepy at all. So when the hour of quiet time was up, I mustered a smile and prepared to be back on duty. Only, this lovely introvert didn't really need me. He had a hug and a snuggle, then went happily over to a pile of duplos and built things, humming and talking quietly to himself. Occasionally he brought something over to display, but it bothered him not one bit that I was lying prone on the couch instead of playing with him.

As I was prepping dinner, Thomas asked for a snack. I provided one, and he grinned and told me that this snack was about to make him into a grown up. "Really?" I asked, "go look into the mirror and see." So he's been running to the mirror between bites, checking to see if he's a grown up yet. A moment ago he informed me that yes, now he is a grown up.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Seven years!

Yesterday Gabe and I celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary.

This is us on our honeymoon. Don't we look cute?



This is us now. Still cute, no?



Copying my anniversary buddy Ma Torg (we share the same wedding date) I wrote out the highlights of our life together thus far:

Year 1:
Gabe works at Imagine Systems and Emily starts a short-lived teaching career.

Year 2: Jonathan is conceived, carried, and born. Gabe starts a master's degree, Emily stops teaching, and we buy a house.

Year 3: Gabe keeps working on the degree while working part time at Imagine. Emily tries to juggle the house, the garden, and a rather demanding small child. Somewhere in there she achieves the rank of Black Belt in Tang Soo Do.

Year 4: Gabe graduates with a Master's Degree in Computer Science, and just in time, as baby number two is born two months later.

Year 5: Emily succumbs to her entrepreneurial heritage and starts Lullaby Slings.

Year 6: Our third baby is born...at home! Gabe starts working at Data Tree.

Year 7: Gabe becomes a Benedictine oblate. Emily assists at two births, then starts a doula certification program. Josiah turns 1, Thomas turns 3, and Jonathan turns five.

I like our life together. It has been full and good; rich in love and laughter and books and babies. Marrying Gabe was exactly the right decision.

Good deal on HP ink!

It is hard to find deals on printer ink, so I was really pleased to discover this one. Even more pleased to discover it on my own rather than reading about it elsewhere! Yay me. :)

HP is currently offering two great deals: FREE next day shipping on HP ink, toner, and paper, and FREE paper (up to $9.99) when you buy an ink multipack (limit 2). I believe this is part of their memorial weekend sale, so you should take advantage of it right away if you're interested.

On top of that, you can use the coupon code SVMX34931 to get $10 off a $50 subtotal.

So, go over to HP. Add one ink multipack, and one pack of paper. Make sure that your subtotal (before the free paper discount) is over $50. Then put in your coupon code. It ends up being a sweet little stacked discount!

Here's what I bought:
27/28 ink multipack $41.99
Bright White paper $9.99

SVMX34931 discount -$10.00
FREE paper discount - $9.99

tax +$2.96
TOTAL: $34.95 for two ink cartridges AND a pack of paper!

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Great deal on children's books


Better World Books is having a sale on their used children's books. If you put 5 in your cart, the price will automatically adjust to only $2 per book! And shipping is FREE. I have ordered from Better World Books in the past and have been delighted with their products and their customer service. If you're looking to build your child's library, this is a great opportunity. Take a look at the extensive list of participating items right here!

(No, I don't get any sort of kick back for recommending this company - I just really like them and think this is a good sale.) :)

Friday, May 14, 2010

Schooling with Jonathan

I can't ever remember what (if anything) I've posted about our plans for schooling Jonathan. Well, we're planning on homeschooling next fall, probably through a combination of CHEP (a public homeschool charter) and possibly a friend who will be teaching a small group of homeschool students two mornings a week. Mostly, though, we'll just keep doing what we're already doing, which is what keeps my anxiety at bay. :)

Right now we have "preschool time" three or four mornings a week. Sometimes we practice handwriting, sometimes we do a math page or play with Mortensen math blocks. Some mornings we read together in the BOB books. Sometimes we do animal discovery and sometimes we paint models and sometimes we bake bread. As long as we rotate and don't get stuck on just one thing forever, it doesn't really matter to me which one we do. And Jonathan is much happier when he gets to pick. :) Obviously that can't last forever, but for now it is working well for us.

Depending on the day and the activity and the interest level, we spend 20-60 minutes in this semi-formal "schooling". The rest of the day is informal. We read books together, they read books to themselves during quiet time, we play outside and garden and when I do laundry they help sort and match socks. Jonathan is learning to fold his own shirts! There is so much more to learning than just "academics", and I'm starting to relax into this gentler understanding of school.

Fun things

Gardening with the boys



Capturing pill bugs





Watching birds nest in our hanging planter - it is a little hard to see, but those are two baby birds on the left side of the mama! (This was taken a week ago, and now the babies are flying!)



Ice cream cones in the sunshine



A visit to a small local farm to see the baby goats



Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Dr. Biter AKA "Dr. Wonderful"

Dr. Biter (often referred to as "Dr. Wonderful") is a OB in the San Diego area. He is known for his care of patients and championing a woman's right to choose a birth without intervention. On May 7th, his privileges at Scripps hospital were suspended without notice. Scripps is not currently commenting.

Dr. Biter is one of those doctors that we all wish we could have - the doctor who takes his time, offers support and respect, and sits on his hands instead of reaching for his scalpel. And while we don't know the details or what exactly is going on, it is worthwhile to follow the story and (I think) to support this man who has given so much to his patients.

Dou-la-la has some excerpts of a beautiful birth story (Dr. Biter attending) here.

She also has the most current details.

Photo credit: EOS Photography

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Babies and Bellies giveaway

Hey folks, Nicole over at Bellies and Babies is holding a whole slew of pregnancy/doula related giveaways this month, and I'm participating! Go take a look at some of the interesting things available, and enter to win! My offering is a midwifery scale sling, if you're interested. Enjoy!

Monday, May 10, 2010

Honeymoon cookin'



Have any of you heard of Kara Kilmer? She is one of the girls on a Hulu show called "If I Can Dream". Honestly, the show isn't that great. But I'm still watching it each week, entirely because of Kara. Not only is she a very talented actress and vocalist, she's also a Christian, and I am blown away by her winsome grace in the middle of Hollywood.

Anyway, Hulu just posted a short video of Kara recording her song "Honeymoon cookin'" in studio. It is a lot of fun and Kara has a wonderful voice. Enjoy!

Wednesday, May 05, 2010

Evidence

This evening I was going through last month's pictures on our digital camera. Right after the Easter photos I found this:



Isn't it nice that they documented their naughtiness?

Monday, May 03, 2010

Consequences


Jonathan and Thomas trashed their room today during quiet time. Now, normally I don't have a problem with messes. They play, have fun, and eventually we have a pick up time. But this was an issue of disobedience, because they were supposed to be playing with a few select toys on their beds (not getting off or playing with each other).

So in a moment of brilliance, instead of getting mad, I explained that they would have to pick it up before they came out.

It's looking like I'm going to get a lot of time to myself this morning. :)

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Playing doctor

I threw up this morning.* Seconds later Josiah was patting my shoulder, Jonathan was taking my temperature, and Thomas was preparing to give me a shot "to make me feel better".

They sent me straight to bed (I didn't argue!) and Jonathan informed me that he could take care of getting snacks for everyone. As he left the room I heard him explain to Thomas "Now, I'm in control, ok?"

Clearly, everything is in good hands and I can stay in bed.


*No, I'm not pregnant. :) And I don't think I'm actually sick - I think it was a combination of a medication side effect and not enough sleep last night.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

I think this counts as exercise, don't you?

This morning I vacuumed the house, including going around and getting the crud out of the edges/baseboards, as well as moving all the chairs, couches, etc. The children were amazingly cooperative - Jonathan and Thomas played together happily in my bedroom (thank you, Legos!) and Josiah followed me around and "helped". It was great! Out of curiosity I calculated my heart rate while leaning, sweaty and panting on the vacuum cleaner...it was 168. I think that counts as double duty - housework AND exercise!

Friday, April 23, 2010

Baby steps


I grew up in a family that moved out of the city to five acres of land 30 minutes away from town. We raised chickens and milked goats, owned a variety of dogs, a cat, some rabbits, and a horse. We tended some amazing gardens and ate a very healthy, mostly homemade diet. We had a compost pile and recycled, long before it was easy and/or cool to do so.

So it probably isn’t very surprising that I would eventually end up tending toward natural, sustainable, healthy living. (I wish I had better words for that. I hate using buzz words.)

It certainly isn’t an overnight change, although I do think that the past 4 months or so have speeded the process. I’m really focusing on making small changes, baby steps, because trying to change everything all at once just isn’t realistic!

So, what baby steps have we been taking?

Well, one of the first big changes was finding a fantastic CSA, Farm Fresh To You. We get a big box of delicious, fresh organic produce every second week. Nearly all our fruits and vegetables come from this now. I do still buy some extras at the store – usually bananas and spinach. As a direct result of this, we’re eating more (and more varied) vegetables and fruits. Getting CSA boxes regularly forces you into this, and while it can sometimes be a challenge, I think it is a very good one.

(If you’d like to try FFTY, you can use promo code 6164 and my name, which will give me a referral credit and you a $5 discount.)

We’ve been drinking a lot of green smoothies. Yes, Sarah, I’m a convert! We have smoothies about 2-3 times a week, either for breakfast or with lunch, and they always include a healthy dose of spinach. The boys enjoy them (usually) and I’m always amazed at how much more fruit and spinach we can consume in this form than if I’d just served oranges and bananas.

We’re making our own yogurt and eating more of it. The boys LOVE this. They choose homemade yogurt over store-bought sugared yogurt every time, so I’ve stopped buying the flavored kind!

And we’re making more homemade bread. We usually buy Oroweat bread, which is about as healthy as you can get from the store (no HFCS, 100% whole grain) but I love the simplicity of homemade bread. I buy two kinds of organic whole wheat flour from Azure Standard (one is better for pastries and the other better for breads) and it is lovely to know exactly what I’m putting in. I’m also experimenting with soaking our grains before using them, so far with great results! (Baking bread is pretty simple for me because I have a bread machine. My parents gave me one years ago, and when that died I found another for $5 at a thrift store. Bread machines are wonderful things!)

On the sustainability front, I started a recycling program in our condo complex. I’m so ridiculously proud of this. :) We now have an entire dumpster specifically for recycles! I’ve also been worm composting for awhile now. Almost all of our “green” kitchen scraps go outside to feed our thriving worm colony. The children are enjoying this project, I get a completely unreasonable kick out of playing in worm dirt, and I’m happy that we’re not throwing so much stuff in the trash or down the garbage disposal. Plus we end up with lovely dirt to enhance our gardening abilities.

And gardening is going really well. I’ve been gardening since we moved her five years ago (the back yard with space for it was part of the reason I loved this place!) so this isn’t really a new one. The flowers are thriving, and I love being able to bring beauty into our home simply by going outside and cutting a few stems. This year we have the strawberry patch, and I’m also growing tomatoes. I put a lot of worm dirt into the patch before planting them, so I’m really hoping that this year they do well. Fresh tomatoes are so good for you and they taste amazing! I want to grow some spinach, too, if I can figure out how and where. I’m tired of paying $6 for organic spinach, especially since we go through it so fast.

Which brings me back to nutrition, and a goal that I’m baby-stepping my way towards: giving up packaged, processed foods. This is one of the hardest ones, because it means giving up convenience. So I’m doing this gradually, and carefully, always mindful of the fact that sometimes hamburgers at McDonald's, or a frozen meal from the grocery store, is a better choice in order to keep Mommy functioning well! But I do really believe that in general, whole, unprocessed foods are important for health. Will processed foods really harm you? Well, maybe not today, but over a lifetime, I think the evidence is fairly convincing that they will. I also have a personal genetic history that leads me to believe that supposedly "safe" chemicals can, in some individuals, cause disastrous results. So I have a very personal impetus to keep ingested chemicals (found in pretty much anything processed and/or non-organic) to a minimum. I’m also becoming more and more convinced that the nutrition industry (which changes it’s own mind at least every ten years) has no idea what is actually healthful, and it may be prudent to stick with foods that our great grandmothers on farms would have recognized.

A lot of this, I know, sounds “crunchy” and “green” and slightly counter-cultural. That’s ok. I don’t have it all figured out yet, but this is the path that our family is finding most compelling. It is a compelling picture when you take it all together. Spend a lot of time/effort at church, read a lot, incorporate educating our children into the center of our life. Eat well, simply, and carefully. Return what we use to the earth or to someone who can re-use or re-purpose it. Give away as much as we can. Care for our bodies, care for our home, care for our little patch of ground outside. Care for the little souls entrusted to us.

We’re doing our best. With baby steps.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Lent, in hindsight

Blogging about an entire 40 days, all at once, is rather difficult. I'm going to give up trying to make it cohesive, and just touch on some things to catch you up.

We decided to home school Jonathan next year. I spent way too much time agonizing over this, and still haven't decided exactly how to home school (although I think we're getting closer to figuring it out).

I discovered that I like writing and I missed blogging. I kept a journal instead, of everything that I wanted to think through or post about.

I realized that Thomas is getting overlooked a bit. I need to find a good way to change that. I'd like to find a time to focus just on him, perhaps to read together and do his own preschool book. He's asked for a math and letters workbook, and I know he's ready - I've been so busy thinking about school for Jonathan that I really let slide the fact that Thomas is ready to start preschool, too. Something to work on.

Jonathan started reading. He's currently working his way through the BOB books, and sounding out words he sees everywhere.

Josiah discovered books! He'll bring me his favorites and plop himself down in my lap, and he wants me to read them over and over and over again. I'm really enjoying that!

We thought about getting pregnant. Had an interesting few days and then I was very grateful to find out that I am NOT.

Something clicked for Jonathan - I can now ask him to clean up his room unsupervised (while I work with Thomas and Josiah in the living room) and he can.

I completed all the coursework for the Childbirth International Doula program. Now I just need to assist two more women during labor, and I'll be a certified doula.

We moved further toward simplified, more intentional living. Did a couple of "purges" and gave away a lot of things. Even the kids joined in with these, which was awesome. They got to bring a bag of stuffed animals to the local life center and give them away personally. Hard, but good - I was very proud of them.

Along the same lines, we're further down the road of real food nutrition and a goal of...I'm not quite sure what to call it...whole living? I'll blog about this more soon.

And staying off the computer? It was good for me. Things that God tells you to do generally are. I'm glad to be back, but I'm going to be using the internet more carefully. It is useful, but it isn't generally restful. It is definitely not what I should turn to when I'm tired, and nothing that I do online is more important than responding to my children. I'm glad that God gave me some space to really figure that out.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Pinched toes

I was reading a post today by a lovely woman who has recently felt pretty overwhelmed by motherhood. She’s doing some of her thinking out loud on her blog, which has been neat to read. It isn’t typical pretty mommy-blogging – but it is very real, and I’m appreciating her honesty.

Part of her post today really struck me, and I've found myself pondering it. (You'll see what I mean by "real"):


One thing that I've ignored for a very long time (because it didn't fit the expectations) is that I'm not a naturally gifted mother. I really, really wanted to be. But it's more like I'm a hunting dog who has been retro-fitted to be a lap dog.

Which is to say, a Literature professor who has been retro-fitted to be an at-home mom.

I mean, it works. I do a good job. But damn, most days that shoe just don't fit. It goes all wonky.


This really resonates with me. I think that I am naturally an adequate mother, and with a lot of effort I can be quite a good mother. But I know a young woman (our regular babysitter) who God has seriously gifted for motherhood. She LOVES being with children. Her career choice until she has kids of her own is to babysit and nanny. She is, and will be, amazing! And sometimes I look at her and think "if I'm the mom, how come I can't be like her?" But the thing is, I can't - I'm not made that way. I never liked babysitting, and I’m afraid I’ve forgotten how to “play pretend”. Although I love my children with everything in me, mothering them is hard work.

Here’s the thing: choral directing is my “shoe”. I am a really good choral director; I love teaching students to sing and working to blend sounds and find just the right emphasis and phrasing. That shoe fits me perfectly. Motherhood pinches my toes.

And that's ok. I don't regret my choice to stay home with the kids, because there are great joys to be found here. Not to mention God's rather specific instructions! But I find it a little freeing to admit that this isn't just the right shoe.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Gardening


I'm so glad that my mother taught me to garden. I'm quite sure that my 12 year old self moaned and complained about weeding and watering, but it is a skill that has become a joy. I love playing in the dirt, especially when there are worms in it, and when the results are so beautiful.

My worm compost bin is such fun. I get a kick out of dumping all our green waste in it and watching it turn into the most lovely dirt you can imagine! I'm getting better at the process with experience and by reading other gardeners' ideas. Did you know that there is a whole world of gardening bloggers? You can learn a lot from them.

Today was another skirmish in the epic battle against the crabgrass. It has been trying to take over my strawberry patch for the entire five years that we've been living here. Victory has gone back and forth between us. Two summers ago, when I was very great with child, it won entirely. Last summer revenge was sweet - I dug up the entire patch, saving the best strawberries to replant. Still, even with a fresh start and lots of newspaper mulch, that crabgrass refuses to die. It came up around the edges, poked through weak spots, and twined itself through the berry plants themselves. When I took up the paper today, I found whole colonies of yellow/white crabgrass, growing underneath. Agh!!

So, today I pulled up everything I could find, and then laid burlap cloth across the entire patch. I cut small holes in it and gently eased the strawberry plants through. It came out looking rather nice, don't you think?

After taking the photo, I added as much worm compost as I had around the plants on top of the burlap. I'll continue to add that as I make it. Watered well, added coffee grounds and little dishes of beer (the organic gardening method of killing slugs!) and hopefully my strawberries will be all set to produce beautifully this summer!

Monday, April 12, 2010

$3 Huggies diaper coupon



There is a new $3 coupon available for Huggies diapers (any type) available. Those who have kids in diapers will definitely want to print this one! It expires on 4/26, so you'll have a couple of weeks to use it. I'd advise printing right away, because these usually don't last long. Hope this helps someone!

Singing

Jonathan is becoming quite the little singer! I love hearing his voice, and as a voice teacher I'm especially pleased that it is (mostly) in tune. :)