Thursday, February 14, 2008

Childbearing years

I find it strange that it is considered perfectly acceptable to assume that if a woman of childbearing years claims to be ill, she must actually be pregnant. And that if you think it, you must of course ask her. Now, I'll allow that it may often be true and she may well be pregnant. But if she is, you've just put her in a difficult position. What if it is early and she doesn't want to talk about it? I'm not saying we should return to the days of confinements and never talking EVER about how the baby showed up...but a little privacy might be good, yes?

Having had multiple miscarriages, I find that I want a few weeks of privacy, just to make sure that the pregnancy will "stick". Because if it doesn't, and everyone knows about it, then I have to spend the next month fielding "oh, how are you?" questions. And in the aftermath of a lost pregnancy, even compassion is hard to handle gracefully.

This time everything seems to be going well. Yesterday we had an ultrasound that showed a healthy, properly developing baby. And so now we will share, with joy, the news that we are expecting baby #3 in September!

And for those of you who are thinking "ha, I just knew it!" I'd like to point out that bronchitis isn't generally part of early pregnancy. :)

17 comments:

Stephanie S said...

Congratulations! And no...bronchitis and early pregnancy don't normally go together. In fact, I'm not sure they should ever go together...
Praise God, though, for a good ultrasound! I'm so excited for you...

Ma Torg said...

I'm so happy for you, Emily! Your boys are so darling and I'll be glad to see pictures of more little Mootharts. May God bless with you health and energy during this pregnancy.

p.s. Are you going to try another homebirth?

Amber said...

Oh my goodness!! Congratulations! For the record, it didn't occur to me in the least to think that you might be pregnant when you were talking about being sick. :-) And I agree, that does seem rather tactless to be prodding someone about their pregnancy status just because they are ill... probably worse than asking "when do you think you'll start trying to have your next baby?" I was getting that a lot before we had Gregory, and it was akward to answer, especially when I was pregnant and just not telling anyone yet.

Our new little ones are going to be really close in age, that is really exciting!

I'll be praying for you and praying that you have a smooth and minimally nauseous first (and second, for that matter) trimester. :-)

Sarah Marie said...

It's a girl, it's a girl, I just know it's a girl... :) (remember, my sending Christa your way was an omen!)

Um, they spelled your middle name incorrectly.

Emily (Laundry and Lullabies) said...

Sarah Marie,
I know, it is spelled wrong on all of my paperwork because they only print a certain number of letters of the name. It just happened to cut off one letter of mine.

I know this because I complained. ;)

Also, I hope you're right. It would be very fun to have a girl.

Ashley said...

I'm glad your baby is healthy. Congratulations. This next one and Thomas will be quite close in age.

kel said...

Yay! So excited for you! Congratulations!

I have generally been shocked and horrified and the questions and comments people are willing to share with me just because I'm pregnant. People are so weird!

Ingrid said...

Oh Em, I'm so glad!

allegra said...

It's a baby boom! Congratulations!

Jenn said...

Yay, hurray. So glad things are going well! Here's hoping that continues :).

Congratulations. You have a beautiful family. :)

crossfamily said...

Yeah Yeah! Praying for a healthy pregnancy for you and one that allows you to enjoy your boys and not be too sick.

theolsons said...

Congratulations! I have to admit the thought went through my mind when you said you weren't feeling well but I try to make it a habit to not verbalize those. I am very excited for you all and we will keep you in our prayers!

Anonymous said...

Wonderful news! Congratulations you guys! Aunt Sharan and Uncle Eric

csilla said...

Dear Emily! Congratulations on your third baby. I'm a mom of two myself, aged 37. I'm a math teacher, have just gone back to work. Cold we get in touch? fulcsilla@gmail.com I'm from Hungary (central Europe)Love in Christ from Budapest, Hungary. Csilla

Dy said...

ROFL "bronchitis isn't part of early pregnancy". I love it!

You've handled all this with such grace, Emily. But I am tickled to know that all is well, and even to see the wee bean in there, growing and comfy. :-) (Thank you for sharing the picture!) What a blessing.

And just when you were finding your groove, eh? (The new groove will come, too, btw. Really, it will.)

SO happy for your family!
Dy

Anonymous said...

We're thrilled ... and glad you're feeling better. But I have a quick question for you and Amber ... when do you think you'll begin trying for #4? :-)

Thanks for posting the picture of the little one!

Love you guys (and looking forward to a more crowded reading chair!)
Mom

Linds said...

wow, you don't waste time, do you? :) congrats on #3! i've got my fingers crossed for a girl for you - i'm sure you have a list of names you haven't been able to tap into yet!