Thursday, November 17, 2005

Frustration

Jonathan's, not mine. :)

I'm guessing this is just a stage we have to get through...it seems like it would make sense developmentally. He wants to do so many things, and he doesn't have either the ability to do them or the words to tell me what he wants. So lately playtime (well, all the time, really) has been punctuated with rather piercing shrieks for no apparent reason. It's a little hard for me to deal with, first because I want to help him and I don't know how! And second because I don't want him to think that shrieking is a good way to get things, so I'm trying to balance helping him, with helping him learn a different way to deal with frustration. I sound a little silly to myself, responding to his cries with "say 'help, Mommy, help please'". After all, he can't say that! But I want him to know that when he can, that's the appropriate response...

I'm working on learning a couple of baby signs in the hopes that they may help. Some of the very simple ones might just be within his grasp now. Milk, more, all done, and sleep are pretty easy. I'm still looking for one for "help". Does anyone know this one, or have a good idea to make one up?

5 comments:

Gabe's Dad said...

Hey Emily, i don't know the baby sign for help, or maybe it's no different from the regular one, but the one i've seen used most often is: you make a fist with your hand(usually right handed people, like you, would use the right hand) with your thumb sticking up. like you're giving a thumbs up. then, you place that fist on the open palm of your other hand, and move both up at the same time. does that make sense? hope this helps. if you have any questions, i can just answer them when i'm there on thurs. ttyl!

slowlane said...

One of my kids uses "please" for "help". Mostly it looks like he is picking at something on his shirt.

Linds said...

I read the first sentence of this post quickly, and did you know that without the comma, that is an incredibly confusing statement? :)

Gabe's Dad said...

Hey Em, i just thought of something. there are a LOT of sites on the web. if you google Baby signs, it comes up with about a million(not that many, but u get what I'm saying) if you have macromedia flash player, or some sort of way to see moving pictures on the internet, they can help alot.
~Abbey

Emily said...

Thanks for the suggestions! Abbey, I did try looking it up on the web, and Dad, you were right about the sign for "help". It seems slightly more complicated than some of the others, but I'm trying it and we'll see what happens.

Slowlane, that's really interesting! I would love it if you could email me and tell me more about how you think baby signing works in real life with the kids.